Spoiler alert: It’s all about mutual respect.
The musician and his model and TV presenter wife, Chrissy Teigen, have been together for over 10 years and welcomed their first child, daughter Luna, last year.
Their union is one of the most successful relationships in Hollywood and when Buzzfeed interviewed Legend about how they make it work, he explained it all comes down to mutual respect.
Answering questions from readers, the subject of success came up. Legend was asked if they ever get jealous of each other’s accomplishments but Legend quickly shot it down and said he’s never been happier than when his wife is successful.
“I love it when my wife is successful. I love with when she’s doing something she’s enjoying,” he said. “You should always want your partner to feel fulfilled and happy in what they’re doing. And you shouldn’t feel jealous if they’re getting joy from something other than you, because it can make your relationship better.”
He also said that women shouldn’t be embarrassed about making the first move because “gender roles are changing and evolving and I don’t think we need to be bound by old-school chivalry.”
When a fan asked if the couple ever “got tired of each” other, Legend stressed the importance of making an effort in a relationship so that neither party gets complacent.
“You go on dates, you need to do things that make you remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.”
The 38-year-old also discussed Teigen’s battle with post-natal depression, something that they’ve been open about in the past.
“It’s tough. You see someone’s mood decline and then stay in a darker place for a while and it’s a challenge for you,” he said. “You don’t know if it’s you, if it’s something you did wrong, or what you can do to help.”
But he said that by seeing professionals and learning how depression works he was able to provide better support to his wife.
“You know it’s not your fault, it’s not your wife’s fault – she didn’t do anything wrong to make her feel this way, it’s sometimes just how your body works,” he told BuzzFeed. “You just have to help each other, support each other, and you’ll get through it.”
And when one reader asked Legend for advice about moving in with his girlfriend, the singer told him to prepare to make some sacrifices.
“You have to understand that there’s some compromises you’re going to have to make. Even if it’s just picking out a couch, or a duvet cover, or some pillows, every little thing is going to be a conversation… As with anything, you have to respect each other, have to communicate, and you have to be willing to not get everything you want all the time.”